Sunday, January 21, 2007

Love is about making sacrifices??

Sacrifice

I had an argument with my best friend a couple of days ago about love and sacrifice.

My friend shared me a Korean music video about the love story of a pretty girl and a prominous photographer. One day, the girl accidentally dropped some chemical solution to her eyes at the guy’s studio. Her corneas were injured and she became blind. At the end of the story, the photographer gave his own corneas to save the girl’s eyes. Well, how would a photographer live without eyes?

Then a discussion came up… my friend said that love is about making sacrifices.
I disagree with that. In my humble opinion, sacrifice is external driven and involves doing or choosing something that one does not prefer, just for the sake of someone else.
For me, I don’t want anyone who loves me to make any sacrifices for me.
I want him to do things for me just simply because he wants to do them and he’s happy with it.
For me, wanting to do things is internal driven and choosing by preference. It’ll make more sense, right?

Then I watched “The Break Up”, a movie starred Jennifer Aniston and Vince Vaughnn. In the fight that led to the break up, Jen said the same thing, “I want u to do things because you want to do them, not because I need you to do them..!”. Aha… a nice support for my statement…

What d u think??


- Tania-

12 comments:

wihaga satya said...

well,

it seems u are the members of Egoism-Supporting Acts out there...

sadly, you are not registered yet. But, considered member already... :D


seld sacrifice is just another representation of care, it is one of the highest form of love and care..

I bet if you are in the circumstances you mentioned above, you will surely doing somewhat you called- sacrifice... It's unlikely for someone not to sacrifice for simple things such as giving a hand , giving some time to others...


If you disagree with self sacrifice then, you have no Heart dear...

Its a natural thing as part of humanity and social life as it goes... :D

Tania Endah Budhi said...

Dear bro,

I know you and me rarely agree with each other.
But that makes life more fun !!!

Anonymous said...

hi this is miss anonymous yinnie. :)

darling, love is all about self-sacrifice...to me at least.. mostly to a degree which it doesn't compromise on your own happiness, cos then it's no longer the real you your other half is in love with.

of cos, it is important that the self-sacrifice is done willingly and even happily (higher level of love).....

basically, like what we study in mba, it's about synergy. it's about the coming together of 2 people with the same values. sure, people do say we need a giver and a taker in a relationship, but once the balance is upset, both parties will end up getting hurt.

not believing in sacrifice doesn't mean you're a bad lover - it only means you need to find someone who can love you the way you are, and the way you would like him to. and i hope you find that lucky man soon. :)

Edwin S said...

Hi Tan,

Maybe you're a bit allergic with the word "sacrifice".
Let's not use that word.
Let's just use the word "giving".

In love, I'm sure it's all about giving and receiving.
You're giving love and receiving love.
What kinds of love you're giving? They can be in various forms, such as giving attention, giving care, etc. And giving your corneas is one of the form of giving. That's the sign of your love. As Wihaga said, it is the highest form of giving.

If you never feel like to sacrifice, maybe because you've never had true love feeling ?

Tania said...

I must say I agree with Edwin...
I'm a bit allergic to the term 'sacrifice' coz it's kinda associated with loss..
In my humble opinion, there's no such thing as winning and losing in love.
On the other hand, 'giving' involves higher state, coz it raises positive emotion either for the one who gives and the one who receives...

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