Sunday, January 21, 2007

Can a girl and a boy be just best friends??


Some people say it’s impossible for a girl and a boy to be just best friends. The degree of closeness and common things they share would provoke the ‘special feeling’ called love in one of them against the other, or even in both of them to each other.
Once love involved, the meaning of true friendship could be jeopardized.
It doesn’t matter if it ends happily. But if doesn’t and somebody or both get hurt, then the friendship might end as well. It happened to lots of my friends…

So far, I never have any problem of having guys as my best friends. I can even name four or five of them easily. Well, I had spent 4 years in engineering school where only 5% of population are female, then worked in biggest automotive company for 3.5 years… So, it’s naturally easy for me to mix up with guys. As far as I remember, I never had any ‘role incongruities’ problem. Some of my guy best friends are even married now and still maintain their friendship with me (well, though distance set us apart…).
I even have some guy friends whom I named as ‘brothers’, some of them know me so well that they can predict my way of thinking (…scary….). Right, bros?

So, I’m on the opinion that “Yes, a girl and a boy can be true best friends without worrying that love would interfere… “

How bout you ?

-Tania-

8 comments:

rachel poh said...

i agree that boy and girl can be just good friend, with my personal experience of course =). But i think it only works for those who believe this.

Arie Novarina said...

hi, tania. this is arie or you may remember me as 13498030 ;D.

how's singapore?

and oh, i do agree that boy and girl can be just good friends. and eventually become "friends with benefit" ha ha.. just kidding.

it just, sometimes we don't have enough time left to nurture that friendship coz we're too busy with something else, like job and try to find a husband. ;D

and some people is taking the easy way: marry your bestfriend. but me, personally, i don't wanna marry my bestfriend. so i would say, i agree about the idea of friendship.

Tania Endah Budhi said...

Of course I won't forget u, Arie.
Singapore's fine... as I've been living here for quite some time now.

Friends with benefit ? hmm... that's kinda rude to our friends. But I get your point... having guys as best friends is really great. They do things for us sincerely. Not that I want to take advantage of them..

Marry a best friend ? Hmm.. still dunno. I dun wanna say something now and prob later would change.. hehe...

-tania-

Wilson said...

my 2 cents...

I don't agree...girls and boys, never start out as friends... they could be one later on..but the beginning is always one of attraction from one or the other(implied or not implied).....friends from workplaces are a little different, we're stuck with the same circumstances, so we're mutually bound by situation. I would still consider them as friend/colleagues....

nice site mam...a little "corporate white".. but.. I think that goes with the territory...

Carol said...

I too have male friends, but don't believe that we can be truly good friends, or should be friends who truly connect emotionally, with guys. There is some danger if the connection is on a deep level, and the connection is not as deep as that with one's boyfriend/spouse.

Ros said...

i have some good guys friends. they provide good "male" perspective and insight on certain issues. they are fun and nice to hang out with. but they will never be in the same closest circle as really (X2) good girl friends.

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Henky said...

To me, yes, it can be. However, IMHO, it would be great, if they could be getting along together; because they might have gone thru trials and hard time that make the friendship stronger and stronger. Along the road, they could treasure the friendship, so that they would 'know' each other, instead just 'know about'. Once getting married, more likely, they are not shocked about the real of them....